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EVERY SUCCESSFUL BUSINESS NEEDS EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT PEOPLE

I might start by explaining what EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EI) is and why it is important. It is often talked about as a bit of a buzz word however it is incredibly important to how we function. 

Emotional Intelligence (EQ or EI) is a term created by two researchers – Peter Salavoy and John Mayer – and popularized by Dan Goleman. Basically EI is a person’s ability to feel an emotion, identify and label it, then know how to manage it. Big call right! Typically, we have learned this valuable skill in our youth when it was modelled to us by our family and loved ones. So, in true developmental stages, a young child will start to form some level of EI, which means that they can identify and label their emotions correctly. They will start to form these ideas by seeing, feeling and hearing what their parents do and how their parents narrate their behaviours and feelings. Babies get a ‘get-out-of-jail-free’ card and are allowed to scream with pleasure or howl with anger. However, hopefully, as we develop and mature, we learn to curb these extreme emotional responses. Thus allowing us to blend into our environment a bit more.

Everyone is usually aware of the term IQ, which stands for your intellectual quotient and that’s our ability to learn, and it remains relatively stable over time, believe it or not. EI is different to IQ, because it’s not about our intellect but rather, it’s our capacity to recognise and understand our own emotions and those of others. Unlike IQ, EI is not set in stone; it is flexible and can be developed. It’s a set of skills that can be acquired and improved on with a bit of practice, which is why it is useful to see a professional if your emotional intelligence is lacking or if you don’t think you do emotional intelligence well. There’s no known connection between your IQ and your EI. You simply can’t predict emotional intelligence based on how smart someone is. Although I firmly believe that some people are naturally more emotionally intelligent than others.

So the burning question is how much impact does EI have on someone’s professional success.  The short answer is A LOT! The reason being that this skill has been researched and tested in conjunction with other psychometrics that predict and assist performance.  The results are that EI is the strongest predictor of success and performance in the workplace.  The reason is that it holds the foundation of the core skills that we do (or should do) every day. Things such as Decision-Making, Time Management, Stress Tolerance, Anger Management, Empathy, the ability to work within a team, your ability to communicate well hence effecting Team Work and Social Skills. It is also responsible for Assertiveness and the ability to motivate yourself and persist in the face of failure or rejection. The statistics state that 90% of top performers in business have solid EI and this result remains true across all industries.

As mentioned EI is a skill that can be strengthened by training your brain to build those neural pathways by identifying and labelling emotions and feelings in the body and in those around you.  Start practicing you may get a promotion out of it!

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DOG WITH A BLOG: Benji's Birthday Week Four

This week is the last week of my birthday month!

I got to go for a ride in my humans basket to my favorite place ever... the beach!

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What a great way to wrap up my birthday celebrations. Thank you everyone for helping me celebrate my birthday month and for making it super special for me! We still have plenty of tennis balls in the clinic, so feel free to grab one the next time you visit us.

There will be more Dog with a Blog's throughout the year, so keep your eyes peeled.... woof woof!

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Helping Children to Develop Gratitude

You have probably heard the saying ‘children are like sponges’ …. well indeed they are! 

 

 

As parents we quickly learn that our reactions, words and attitudes are mirrored by our children.  In fact, children form views of their internal and external world which are largely based on experiences they are given in the early years.  Psychologists often refer to these as core beliefs and values.

Attitudes are similarly developed through the thoughts, feelings and behaviours that have been modelled.  In the long term, attitudes will influence children’s choices as they go out into the world.

As such, being grateful is not only an attitude that can be assimilated from a young age but with sufficient repetitive experiences, can become entrenched in the child’s belief system and values.

But why is it important for children to develop gratitude?

Research shows that individuals whom have a well developed sense of gratitude, experience more life satisfaction, greater levels of optimism, higher self-esteem, have more empathy and increased psychological resilience.  This means that in the face of adversity and challenges, they are more likely to bounce back quicker.

Providing opportunities for children to experience gratitude is therefore an investment in their long term psychological wellbeing!  Developing a true sense of gratitude however, is more than just learning to say thank you ..but is instead cultivated through direct involvement that allows children to truly experience what gratitude is about. 

Ideas that may help to prepare children to develop gratitude

  1. Role model it.  Your actions, words and behaviours will be the most powerful roadmap a child will have as they go out into the world.  So choose to behave in ways that demonstrate what gratitude is about.
  2. Take a moment each day to be grateful for 5 things (people, objects, friendships, kindness, health, love) that you have in your life and share them with your child. For younger children, help them to draw a picture of something that happened in their day which they are grateful for.
  3. Play games that increase awareness of gratitude: write secret notes to each other expressing something you are grateful for and place them under the pillow, or inside the lunchbox. Encourage them to do the same to you and to others (eg. friends, grandparents, siblings). For younger kids, draw pictures to each other.
  4. Create a gratitude jar: once a day, write down on a piece of paper something that you are grateful for and place it in the jar.  Do this each day of the year and on Dec 31, open the jar and read them out.
  5. Limit how much you give them: with today’s throwaway society, it is easy for our children to be given too much. Help them to save for something special instead.
  6. Expose children to opportunities to feel firsthand the joy of being grateful:  help them volunteer to help others, engage in random acts of kindness (do something nice for someone without expecting anything in return (smile, hugs, make a card, draw a picture, pick a small flower)
  7. Involve them in tasks that include some preparation, such as meals or tidying up so they understand the effort that is involved.  Make time to reflect on this effort at the end.
  8. When receiving a gift, reflect with them on the effort the person giving it must have gone through to find it, make it or buy it, wrap it and give it. 
  9. Observe mindfully.  Sit with your child in the garden and watch the ants!  Talk about their actions in seeking and finding food, comment on how they work together to help each other. Do this with other things in the environment to create a sense of gratitude for nature.

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Below is the attachment link for the 30 Day of Gratitute Calander. You can print one off for you and your child or children to complete together!

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DOG WITH A BLOG: Benji's Birthday Week Three

We are still celebrating my birthday month here at Drop of Life! My human organised more cool things for me this week:

My Human threw a party for me at work!! Even got some yummy treats. 

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My Human organised a spa treatment with my Jayne from Aussie Pooch Mobile who is so sweet with me, the body massage is THE BEST!

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If any humans want to pamper their pooch, Jayne is the best in the business. You can call Aussie Pooch Mobile on 1300 369 369 to make a booking with Jayne.

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All that pampering and partying made me super sleepy, so I spent the rest of my day relaxing.

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Even though its my birthday, giving makes me a lot happier than receiving For the rest of the month there will be a bucket of tennis balls in the clinic. Feel free to take one for your furry friend to brighten their day!

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My brithday month isnt over yet! Make sure you tune into next weeks Dog with a Blog to see how we wrap up my birthday celebrations.

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My human has organised so many things this week to help me celebrate my birthday month:

 

My Human planned a play date with my best  friends Campbell (the big bog) and Roxy (I think I love her) and we went and played in the park together! Campbell never has much to do with me but I know the big guy loves me

 

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Benji and Roxy

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Campell, Roxy and Benji 

 

My Human took the big dogs and I to the beach on the weekend and we ran and played in the water so much fun. It’s my favourite place in the world to go!

 

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My Human tells me that she has more exiciting things planned throughout this month to celebrate my birthday. Make sure you read next weeks Dog with a Blog to find out more!

 

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BENJI

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